the limits of soulmates

I believe in many, many things. I believe that there is a Higher Power in our midst; whether it be God or otherwise. I believe in love at first sight, and in friends forever. I believe what my friends tell me, that there is a meaning to ever person's life and that goodness will prevail. I believe in these and many more things, but there is one thing I do not believe in- soulmates.

At least not in the traditional sense.

I do not believe that there is only one person out there for everyone. I believe that there are many, many people you could be easily happy with for the rest of your life. Every person you date has the potential to be your life partner, if you will. They begin with that potential and it is then a matter of time; sometimes a couple seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, or years; until you discover whether or not you fit with the other person.

I do understand the want, or the need even, to believe in such a romantic ideal. The majority of people in this world would like to believe that the universe holds some perfect person for them, and that the Higher Power exists just to bring them together for eternity. But I don't believe that for one reason alone:

Assuming that soulmates do exist, in the traditional sense, and you screw it up or he screws it up and the relationship ends, then thats it. Your one chance to be truly happy is gone forever.

From the non-belief, stems my belief that soulmates, in the non-romantic sense, do exist. I believe that soulmates are more friends that capture you, know you inside and out, who get you when no one else does. They are the ones that last.

I have two, three, maybe four soulmates in my life and they feel the same way, men and women alike.

maybe i'm not making any sense, or i'm contridicting myself, but i just know that there are so many ways to be happy in this world and so many people with the potential to be "soulmates". The possiblities are limitless. I think its dangerous to think that there is only one person out there for you, romantic yes, but unrealistic. However, if you need to cling to that idea to make it through the days, by all means do so. I'm not trying to crush anyones ideals. I just think that the idea of a soulmate limits your experiences, or can limit them anyways....

wow, i'll stop now bcuz i'm not even making sense to myself anymore....sorry...g'nite