Validation

Why is it that sometimes we need validation from outside of our relationships? It seems to me that when you begin a relationship with someone, you tend to seek their approval through compliments and sweet sentiments. As time goes on, though, it seems as if the ego boosts they give to you fall short, when they once were all you needed. So you venture outside and wander to long lost friends, lovers and acquaintances, whose compliments get you higher than the person you love the most. Why is that?

I don't think it's just me. In fact, I've heard from many different people that sometimes "you just need a compliment from a stranger". My mother, who has been in a loving marriage for almost 30 years, has made a comment like that from time to time. "It's just makes you feel good to know that someone besides your husband (or boyfriend) finds you attractive." I agree that it does lift ones ego a bit, but why can't we be satisfied with the sincere compliments from the ones we love?

I know that everyone likes to feel desireable and wanted, but again, why can't we be content with the desire and want that comes from someone who loves you. Why must we still wander outside our lives to find the validation that is sitting right beside you?